Anonymous asked: I just learnt that my friend has been cutting her wrists for 6 months now. And she's doing it everyday now because she says it relieves her pain and it feels good and she's addicted to it. I don't know what to do about it and I can't go and tell someone about it because no one knows about it and it's really personal. Any advice?

gosh. i’m not sure how pertinent any advice would be as every self-harmer is different, as are the reasons they do it. try talking to her about the reasons she feels she needs to cut and suggest telling someone or seeing a counsellor - mine has helped me a lot. she won’t have a hope in hell of quitting unless she really wants to, so there’s no way you can make her stop. all you can do is help her realise why she needs to. i know this is a cliche, but just try to be there for her and let her talk to you about what’s going on. if nothing else, talking will distract her and she won’t be able to cut with you around. you might also want to talk to her about how it’s making you feel, just so she realises that cutting does have negative consequences.. the trouble with self-harm is that it’s hard to see anything wrong with it once you’ve convinced yourself that it helps.